Actually before this i did said casually of me wanting to get married at the age of 28 which is abt 4more yrs to go...both patner and i agreed that we should give ourselve another 4 yrs before we settle ourselve down. In early June this year me got the news of the new retention scheme and frm then on i really keen on planning my future...end of this year insyallah me will be going to Europe for holiday...and in Jan next year me will sent mum and dad to Umrah...insyallah...
Planning is easy however to execute it and to do it well is really a big thing u noe. Especially in my case there are so many things which patner and me need to really sit down and discuss seriously...e.g him converting to Islam and etc....I do not wish to force patner to do it because of me or just because he want to marry me...i want him to know more abt Islam...but i just dunno how to bring up the topic to him. I noe this sensitive issue gonna give me a big headache since the day i decided to be with him....Honestly, Im very happy to be with patner and love him very much but just being in love itself will not make us happy....Yes , some ppl will tend to say that "doesn't matter lah as long u both happy" ...im soooo definitely will not hear any of tat coz i dun want to dissapoint my parent....but on the other hand i noe patner too will need to answer to his mum, bro and sis on his actions. i can't be selfish rite....BUT one of us have to do something abt it..I dunno y but im feeling the pressure now...haiyo really headache lah... I noe patner did said to me not to worry but i can't help it....i dun want to pretend to be happy and at the end of the day so many problems surface...
Hmm..may be this is a "test" from HIM....wat i can do now is to pray and hope everything will go just fine....Insyallah.
2 comments:
Hey babe..I'm in the exact same position as u..my bf's chinese too..and for him to convert..he confirm wil be disowned by his family coz he's the 1st son and his parents already say that he cannot be with a muslim. ;o(
I think John's mum is a pretty open-minded person. And I believe John will convert. He once told me that he was reading up about Islam so when he tells u not to worry, den don't. He's sensible enough on wat to do. But u shld broach the subject with him if ur planning to continue on this relationship. Every problem has it's solution. Don't lose hope or be unduly stressed becoz of this.
And if u've found the ans, let me noe. Coz for me n my man, we've decided to run away from singapore. ;o)
hey sweety...thanks for ur comment....haha never expect u to read my bloggie...anyway u too be strong k..me and him are taking one step each and its going quite well...hopefully it will stay this way...dun worry if i've got the ans i will definitely share with u owite..in the meantime enjoy each other company and stay madly in love owite...see u around babe;p
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